Do you love watching your partner interact with your baby? I definitely do. One of the most meaningful and energizing things that I experience is watching my husband interact with our son. I may be biased, but my husband is patient, playful, and attentive. On occasion, I will sneak outside of the door to listen to them make noises at each other. It is adorable!
As a mother, I feel like it is my responsibility to help grow the bond between my husband and our son, because our son spends most of his time with me. Because of that, I know their time together is important and imperative for establishing a strong relationship.
Here are a few ways we do this at our house:
Let dad feed the baby
Since I breastfeed our son, it is rare that my husband gets to actually feed our son. Especially because I use breastfeeding as a bonding time with our son when I get home from work (he has pumped breast milk at daycare). Does that mean dad is excluded from feedings? No way! My husband takes over when it is time to burp and we usually end up laughing at the mess he makes. This has created a family ritual for us that has let our son be close to his dad.
Let dad and baby cuddle!
Evenings are hectic. Between caring for a newborn, handling feedings, doing diaper changes, folding laundry, making dinner, and even just spending a little time with your spouse. One thing that has helped a lot is letting dad and baby have their alone time to cuddle. Sometimes I will ask my husband to just relax on the couch with our son. This gives me both hands to get some long overdue housework done fast, and encourages them to have some great bonding time together. This is a win for everyone!
Make bath time a family event
Do you love bath time with your baby? Our son loves the water, and he loves getting a baby massage. We have found that when the whole family participates in bath time, it is more fun and much easier. While my husband washes his body, I wash his hair. Some of our greatest memories up to this point have involved bath time. It is also great watching dad increase his confidence while holding our slippery, squirmy son.
Make dad a part of your established morning routine
Morning routines vary from household to household (read more about our’s here!). Dad’s prepares baby for the day by giving him a dry diaper and dressing him. He then plays with him for a little while while I finish getting ready for my day. Those early morning moments are really meaningful to my husband and are a wonderful little boost of time with the baby before going to work. While this might not work out exactly for your schedule, be creative! I am sure there are ways that you can combine quality bonding with your needed morning routine.
Let dad and baby develop their own thing
Sometimes as a mom (or woman?)I like to have control over everything. Is this something you relate to? However, I have found that one of the best things is when I just let my husband do his own thing with baby. That may simply mean tummy time, reading a book, or looking at the Christmas tree, I can see that they find really fun things to do with each other and enjoy it a lot more when I take a step back.
How does dad and baby bonding happen in your life?