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Guest Post from: Tune In Start Early – Describing The World to Baby

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Guest Writer: David Towers from TuneInStartEarly.com

Baby Talk
Of course your baby is a new human being. You know that! However, what you may not realize is that, after making any necessary adjustments for age, you need to give your child the same courtesy and respect you would give your grandmother.

Your not going to be discussing the theory of relativity with your baby. You are however expected to give it the basic form of interaction that baby deserves at any given moment.

The way I started this process of treating my daughter with courtesy was simply by having a little baby talk and narrating what my wife and I see, describing whatever we are doing at any given moment. That was the simple way to start things off.

If I’m holding her in my arms, for example, and we are walking through the kitchen to the fridge, I narrate everything we are seeing and doing. “This is the kitchen, the place where we prepare food,” I say. “I am opening the fridge. This is a milk jug I am grabbing; let’s pour the milk into a glass.” I constantly talk to my child about what we are doing. A non-stop narration, as if a tour guide to my baby. A tourist in a foreign land.

If my baby is watching her mommy pour breastmilk into bags and put them in the freezer, I am explaining that process. My baby is looking at that process already, so I’m just adding informative words. Your already with your child constantly, add in constant interaction.

It’s a way to help your baby feel more connected to you and her surroundings. Babies sense communication on many levels. Maybe the words are not completely understood, but the fact that you’re talking to your baby starts the process of creating a deeper connection and a deeper bond. Their little minds understand that much. It makes them feel calmer when you talk to them. The better they feel, the more relaxed they are as babies. The more relaxed they are, the easier it gets to be for us as parents. Always stick yourself into the babies shoes whenever things get rough. What would it be like if I was seeing this thing called a Vacuum that makes a very loud confusing noise for the first time?

Why not talk to your baby constantly? It’s so easy to do. When you’re walking back home with your baby from the park, talk to them. Describe everything you’re both seeing. Your already experiencing the world with your baby, why not interact with them about it as well. They won’t be talking back to you yet, so this makes it easy for communication to be done in a one-way style.

As you’re describing what you see in the kitchen for example, understand that she is seeing this thing called food for the first time. She is seeing this thing called a fridge for the first time. She has no idea what these items are. Talk to her with her perspective in mind and you will begin to truly interact with your child. The better & more you do this interaction the better the results will be. The more you include your baby into your daily routine the more inclusive baby will feel to their environment. The more this occurs, the easier your time with them will be. Dont make the mistake and treat them like a baby who has little to add to your life except vomit & poop. Ignore that perspective and push it away. Treat them like you would any other human being.

You’re going to be doing everything with your baby anyway, with your baby constantly beside you. Add in more communication when you spend time with your child. Babies are always listening and their little brains are always ready to absorb any new information like sponges. In one way or another, they are constantly learning. You can influence that moment more and help yourself better understand how your baby sees the world by talking to them constantly. The questions you will naturally ask our loud, such as – you probably dont know what this thing called a fridge does & how it works do you? Will help you see the world through their eyes. Its a common sense application of communication.

Isn’t that what being a parent is supposed to be? You are now guiding this little human’s life. Think back to your parents and their impact on you. Now you are starting this process on another human being. Influence their life as much as possible. Start off with constant communication and interact with your baby. They will soon start talking back to you, so that true two-way language communication is coming very soon. In the meantime, prepare for that communication, lay the ground work for how you want them to speak to you. Watch and learn to read your babies non-verbal cues and respond to them by doing more of the above. Your learning as much about her and her world as she is.

Once the baby starts to see that you are responding to them, that you are tuned into them, the baby will increase its communication with you. If its a simple hands in the air requesting some more of the bottle to a simple hand to mouth movement showing you they are hungry. When you respond to them, baby takes notice, baby feels more calm and you have begun the process of interacting with your baby on a slightly deeper level. The more you interact with them, the more they will interact with you & the stronger your mutual understanding of each other will be. We want our children to communicate with us as much as possible. Your simply laying the foundation for this experience to happen more easily in the future. Invest in your future, in the babies, it is far less stressful when you do.

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Guest Post from: Tune In Start Early – Constant Communication, Constant Interaction with Baby

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Guest Writer: David Towers from TuneInStartEarly.com

Blog Introduction:
I fail as a parent each and every day. Whether it is directly with my child & failing to be a better parent to her. Or with what I do in front of my child, or let my child see, like losing my cool & saying bad words out loud so she can hear. I am not perfect.
I try though, to be better, much better. Out of all the failures that happen, overall, the amount of good I do, hopefully makes me feel like I am trying to do my best with my daughter.
It’s super tough being a new parent but I feel this hopeful feeling because as often as possible, I am applying some tools in my life that are making me both a better person & a better parent. Those ‘good times’ is what I want to focus on, mostly.
I learned that we are already spending so much time with our children. Why not find a way to spend that time together more wisely? Since the birth of my daughter, I’ve been thinking of nothing else. How do I maximize our “moments” together? Can I make this parenting job any easier for myself? Is there anything I can do to make it less stressful? The answer is a big & enormous Yes!

Guest Post:
Parenting is stressful enough as it is. Living our fast paced and very busy lives is already difficult. I have become far less stressed about raising my little munchkin human being because of what I am doing different with her. Since I am less stressed, I’m transmitting less of my personal life stress to my baby. The changes are astounding. Parenting itself has become much less stressful for me, and my baby daughter feels that I’m calmer. Our bond strengthens. I feel better. She feels so much better. She cries so little with me now when compared to other people she is with. It feels like we are both (figuratively speaking) crying less with the mutual difficulties we experience in this crazy world.

We have some major magic happening together & my baby daughter and I are interacting with one another. Truly interacting, me and my 1 year old. Parenting life is so much more easier and more enjoyable now.

Here are my suggestions:

Start by creating an environment of constant communication with your baby. My daughter and I interact constantly. What I have added to that time has created some dramatic changes in both daughter and Daddy.

Start bonding with your baby by treating your child like any other human being. Although your baby is obviously a little human being who lacks the ability to communicate verbally right now, you wouldn’t ignore another person who is with you, so don’t ignore your baby. Assume that she can understand or at least “feel” everything you’re talking about. While it is very easy to tune out a little child, looking at your smartphone, putting on your makeup, watching just 10 more minutes of your favorite TV show or attending to any of the thousands of other distractions in your life, don’t tune out your child; tune in to your child & reap the rewards of a completely new form of two way interaction.

When you tune in, you learn more. The more you learn, the better you can help guide baby through life. Even better, the more you understand how your baby sees the world, the more you will adjust the world to your child’s eyes. Moreover, the better this process becomes, the better your child will be able to cope with the world around them and with all of the unexpected things the world offers.

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