Guest Writer: David Towers from TuneInStartEarly.com
I fail as a parent each and every day. Whether it is directly with my child & failing to be a better parent to her. Or with what I do in front of my child, or let my child see, like losing my cool & saying bad words out loud so she can hear. I am not perfect.
I try though, to be better, much better. Out of all the failures that happen, overall, the amount of good I do, hopefully makes me feel like I am trying to do my best with my daughter.
It’s super tough being a new parent but I feel this hopeful feeling because as often as possible, I am applying some tools in my life that are making me both a better person & a better parent. Those ‘good times’ is what I want to focus on, mostly.
I learned that we are already spending so much time with our children. Why not find a way to spend that time together more wisely? Since the birth of my daughter, I’ve been thinking of nothing else. How do I maximize our “moments” together? Can I make this parenting job any easier for myself? Is there anything I can do to make it less stressful? The answer is a big & enormous Yes!
Parenting is stressful enough as it is. Living our fast paced and very busy lives is already difficult. I have become far less stressed about raising my little munchkin human being because of what I am doing different with her. Since I am less stressed, I’m transmitting less of my personal life stress to my baby. The changes are astounding. Parenting itself has become much less stressful for me, and my baby daughter feels that I’m calmer. Our bond strengthens. I feel better. She feels so much better. She cries so little with me now when compared to other people she is with. It feels like we are both (figuratively speaking) crying less with the mutual difficulties we experience in this crazy world.
We have some major magic happening together & my baby daughter and I are interacting with one another. Truly interacting, me and my 1 year old. Parenting life is so much more easier and more enjoyable now.
Here are my suggestions:
Start by creating an environment of constant communication with your baby. My daughter and I interact constantly. What I have added to that time has created some dramatic changes in both daughter and Daddy.
Start bonding with your baby by treating your child like any other human being. Although your baby is obviously a little human being who lacks the ability to communicate verbally right now, you wouldn’t ignore another person who is with you, so don’t ignore your baby. Assume that she can understand or at least “feel” everything you’re talking about. While it is very easy to tune out a little child, looking at your smartphone, putting on your makeup, watching just 10 more minutes of your favorite TV show or attending to any of the thousands of other distractions in your life, don’t tune out your child; tune in to your child & reap the rewards of a completely new form of two way interaction.
When you tune in, you learn more. The more you learn, the better you can help guide baby through life. Even better, the more you understand how your baby sees the world, the more you will adjust the world to your child’s eyes. Moreover, the better this process becomes, the better your child will be able to cope with the world around them and with all of the unexpected things the world offers.
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