Guest Writer: David Towers from TuneInStartEarly.com
Of course your baby is a new human being. You know that! However, what you may not realize is that, after making any necessary adjustments for age, you need to give your child the same courtesy and respect you would give your grandmother.
Your not going to be discussing the theory of relativity with your baby. You are however expected to give it the basic form of interaction that baby deserves at any given moment.
The way I started this process of treating my daughter with courtesy was simply by having a little baby talk and narrating what my wife and I see, describing whatever we are doing at any given moment. That was the simple way to start things off.
If I’m holding her in my arms, for example, and we are walking through the kitchen to the fridge, I narrate everything we are seeing and doing. “This is the kitchen, the place where we prepare food,” I say. “I am opening the fridge. This is a milk jug I am grabbing; let’s pour the milk into a glass.” I constantly talk to my child about what we are doing. A non-stop narration, as if a tour guide to my baby. A tourist in a foreign land.
If my baby is watching her mommy pour breastmilk into bags and put them in the freezer, I am explaining that process. My baby is looking at that process already, so I’m just adding informative words. Your already with your child constantly, add in constant interaction.
It’s a way to help your baby feel more connected to you and her surroundings. Babies sense communication on many levels. Maybe the words are not completely understood, but the fact that you’re talking to your baby starts the process of creating a deeper connection and a deeper bond. Their little minds understand that much. It makes them feel calmer when you talk to them. The better they feel, the more relaxed they are as babies. The more relaxed they are, the easier it gets to be for us as parents. Always stick yourself into the babies shoes whenever things get rough. What would it be like if I was seeing this thing called a Vacuum that makes a very loud confusing noise for the first time?
Why not talk to your baby constantly? It’s so easy to do. When you’re walking back home with your baby from the park, talk to them. Describe everything you’re both seeing. Your already experiencing the world with your baby, why not interact with them about it as well. They won’t be talking back to you yet, so this makes it easy for communication to be done in a one-way style.
As you’re describing what you see in the kitchen for example, understand that she is seeing this thing called food for the first time. She is seeing this thing called a fridge for the first time. She has no idea what these items are. Talk to her with her perspective in mind and you will begin to truly interact with your child. The better & more you do this interaction the better the results will be. The more you include your baby into your daily routine the more inclusive baby will feel to their environment. The more this occurs, the easier your time with them will be. Dont make the mistake and treat them like a baby who has little to add to your life except vomit & poop. Ignore that perspective and push it away. Treat them like you would any other human being.
You’re going to be doing everything with your baby anyway, with your baby constantly beside you. Add in more communication when you spend time with your child. Babies are always listening and their little brains are always ready to absorb any new information like sponges. In one way or another, they are constantly learning. You can influence that moment more and help yourself better understand how your baby sees the world by talking to them constantly. The questions you will naturally ask our loud, such as – you probably dont know what this thing called a fridge does & how it works do you? Will help you see the world through their eyes. Its a common sense application of communication.
Isn’t that what being a parent is supposed to be? You are now guiding this little human’s life. Think back to your parents and their impact on you. Now you are starting this process on another human being. Influence their life as much as possible. Start off with constant communication and interact with your baby. They will soon start talking back to you, so that true two-way language communication is coming very soon. In the meantime, prepare for that communication, lay the ground work for how you want them to speak to you. Watch and learn to read your babies non-verbal cues and respond to them by doing more of the above. Your learning as much about her and her world as she is.
Once the baby starts to see that you are responding to them, that you are tuned into them, the baby will increase its communication with you. If its a simple hands in the air requesting some more of the bottle to a simple hand to mouth movement showing you they are hungry. When you respond to them, baby takes notice, baby feels more calm and you have begun the process of interacting with your baby on a slightly deeper level. The more you interact with them, the more they will interact with you & the stronger your mutual understanding of each other will be. We want our children to communicate with us as much as possible. Your simply laying the foundation for this experience to happen more easily in the future. Invest in your future, in the babies, it is far less stressful when you do.
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